Faulty communications cause innumerable problems. This is especially true in the home. In fact, one of the first steps to improve family relationships is to improve family communications.
Family members need to talk meaningfully to each other every day, to show an interest in each other, to give constant understanding and approval, and to share and accept one another's feelings.
Each member also needs to be given a say in family matters. When this is done, practical compromises—the oil for smooth family living—can be worked out.
Communication, of course, goes two ways. It involves not only talking but listening creatively; that is, listening to the real message behind the words.
Sometimes family members will say one thing when they mean another. For example, Dave asks June, his wife, if she'd like to go out for dinner. June is tired and doesn't want to go, but feels Dave might be hurt if she says no. So she agrees. Then she feels resentful because Dave didn't know how she was feeling. As a result, the dinner date was a flop.
If Dave is listening creatively, he may detect when June is saying "yes" but means "no." However, it is important for all family members to say what they want and not leave others to guess.
Family members need to talk meaningfully to each other every day, to show an interest in each other, to give constant understanding and approval, and to share and accept one another's feelings.
Each member also needs to be given a say in family matters. When this is done, practical compromises—the oil for smooth family living—can be worked out.
Communication, of course, goes two ways. It involves not only talking but listening creatively; that is, listening to the real message behind the words.
Sometimes family members will say one thing when they mean another. For example, Dave asks June, his wife, if she'd like to go out for dinner. June is tired and doesn't want to go, but feels Dave might be hurt if she says no. So she agrees. Then she feels resentful because Dave didn't know how she was feeling. As a result, the dinner date was a flop.
If Dave is listening creatively, he may detect when June is saying "yes" but means "no." However, it is important for all family members to say what they want and not leave others to guess.
Suggested prayer: "Dear God, help me to learn how to communicate effectively so that I can be a better friend, companion, and family member. Thank you for hearing and answering my prayer. Gratefully, in Jesus' name, amen."
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